My mindful experience
I've practised mindfulness for three months now and am pleased with my mindful experience so far. As someone who spends a lot of time thinking, mindfulness was literally a breath of fresh air for me. I was surprised at how quickly I saw results, and have been able to fit mindfulness practice into my daily routine without much effort. I’ve also used mindfulness with my two lovely boys and am pleased to report that they find it helpful too.
The practice has opened my eyes and shown me that life is literally passing me by in a blur. I’m on autopilot so much of the time that I might as well not be showing up for my own life. I don’t want to miss out on my boys growing up and don’t want to spend my days feeling angry and negative because the kids are driving me nuts.
By pulling my attention back to the here and now whenever I can, I've started to appreciate the little things more which makes me feel happier and more positive. By being aware of the physical sensation of anger I find I calm down more quickly and less often get sucked into the spiral of screaming at the kids and joining in with their tantrums.
This has had an impact on the boys too. They see me being able to calm down more quickly and in turn, so do they. I’ve also learned some brilliant techniques to use with the boys for when they’re feeling upset or angry such as the starfish meditation, or toy breathing.
I’m not mindful all the time. I quite often forget and then feel bad for forgetting. Some days – the ones where we’re feeling poorly or have had little sleep, I still find myself getting annoyed over little things that really shouldn't bother me. But I know that I can focus on my breathing for a few minutes and I’ll feel that bit calmer and I'll probably end up shouting at the boys a bit less.
While mindfulness can’t solve everything it has made me realise that sometimes you can’t change an event. What you can change is how you react to it. For me that has been the greatest lesson and has moved me from being completely reactive more accepting.
How has being mindful helped you? Let me know in the comment box below.